I fell in love with Kelly Corrigan years ago with her book, The Middle Place. She speaks a lot in her books and her talks about what she calls “the Mount Everest of human emotions: acceptance.” She posted this video on her FB page last week and I copied it right away to share with you.
I talk endlessly here on the blog and in my coaching practice about acceptance, because we are, of course, our own worst enemies.
Comparison being the worst of killers, as we know.
Even I, a personal development junkie, have to coach myself in acceptance and letting go many days.
Sometimes what we expect of ourselves and what we’re capable of (this day) are two totally different ball games.
And who are we to judge constantly?
In the last few years I’ve been very mindful of my judgement of others, and yet my judgement of self is still with a NASA-worthy magnifying lens.
I’ve been trying to unlearn dichotomies like good/bad and right/wrong–hopeful to eventually absorb the “it is what it is” attitude.
It’s quite hard to separate, however, what it is we truly desire from that which we’ve been taught to. I had a really thought provoking conversation with my friend/client, Lynne, recently over this.
High heels were the debate.
We wear them to look and feel sexy, and yet they suck, so who is it that we’re trying to look and feel sexy for, and where in the hell did we learn that high heels were the answer!
I admitted that I too like to wear heels sometimes, but then I couldn’t articulate why. I’m also a huge fan of the wingtip shoes and bow-tie. I’m nearly smack dab in the middle actually. But truthfully, I’ve only gained acceptance of that more androgynous side of myself as the country around me has grown more accepting.
This conversation really had me scratching my head.
Acceptance is broad and multi-layered. I see it as compassion for self and others. The less we judge ourselves, the more we’ll tolerate others, I believe. AND–the biggie–the less we fear others judging US!
If we can fill ourselves up with so much love and goodness to plug all the voids and cracks of years past, who then, even our nasty inner roommate, could tear us down?
I once read, “If we could only see ourselves as our creator sees us.” To be interpreted as you wish. I thought of my mom …
If we could only see ourselves unconditionally, full of setbacks, falls and shortcomings, and yet honest and brave and doing our damndest to be better all the time.
This world we be a much better, more peaceful, more whole place! Right?
Let it start with us, shall we?
I leave you with this: What is something about yourself that you’ve grown to accept?